I have one serious problem since i was in kindergarden. no one noticed it because i like to be alone and i dont like friends. i keep on staying away from people. this is me. even until now i keep trying to make friends but deep inside me, im still the old hass.
LOW SELF ESTEEM
I always think im not perfect and some other girls out there are perfect enough to be compared with me. seriously this thing disturbing my mind like hell. once when i was in high school, around 14 to 17 years old, i was too scared to go out hanging around with my schoolmates. i didnt joined any outdoor activities. i didnt attend to school on our class photoshoot session for magazine. at school i just do my own work. i just hope that people didnt noticed me at all, i came to school, doing my things, chit chat a bit with person who sitting beside me, then go for lunch, ALONE, then continue my classes, then mama came picked me up. paaap! IM HOME now. you guys dont even know its really hard to be me. my confident level is too low or maybe didnt have confident at all.
SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME T___T
I always think that im fagly (fat and ugly), i dont have flawless skin, im short, i dont have such a beautiful eyes, i dont have such a beautiful body, my hair is ugly, bla bla bla. and this things really really make me sick! sometimes i feel like i wanna die or i want to walk across the road slowly until a huge lorry bumped me, and i need a plastic surgery from head to toe. i know i sound stupid but so what? LIKE I CARE :O but this is me. and ive tried so hard before to change myself, to love my myself the way i am, i accept what GOD gave me, maybe you guys see i am confident with myself but you dont see inside me. even sometimes i need to google 'how to love yourself', 'love your body', and so on. critical right? then after reading those articles, i feel better. tapi sekejap je tahan. haihh.
HASMIDA..HASMIDA, bila la kau nak berubah ni? *my mom always said laikdis. HAHA!*
The situation that i hate the most is when my relatives come and visit us or the moment when my family go to visit our relatives at kampung. they will always like judge me, comment about how do i look now like "kaklong, lain la muka sekarang. asal gemuk ni?" or "hidung ko makin besar aku tengok, lain dengan mak ko" wathefuckman? you guys just know how to critic others. look at yourself first! if you're perfect enough to look at me and judge me, then go ahead but you're not. stupidasshole. i hate this kinda people =.=" they must stay away from me.
Enough about my storiess. orang tua ni asyik membebel je dari tadi -.-'
Okay, this are some way to love ourself! heee :) girls out there who face the same problem like mehh, come and read this. maybe this can help us to be more confident with ourself. good luck!
- Be honest with yourself about how valuable you believe you are. The way you see yourself and treat yourself is the very way others will see you and treat you. Do you see yourself as valuable and worthy of the gift of love? Do you treat yourself lovingly and as a valuable being? And most importantly, do you treat OTHERS with love? That's the first step to feeling better about yourself. It’s ok to be truthful with yourself, though it may not be pretty! Awareness is the first and more powerful step on the path to change!
- Start sharing. This is one of the most important steps you need to take. This may be the reason you are suffering and cannot feel love in your life. If you are serious about yourself and don't want to lose yourself, start sharing today. Share with others everything you have. Everybody has something to share. Share your happiness, sadness, money or things you use, and most importantly your knowledge. By sharing slowly and surely, you will start feeling worth for yourself and you will start loving yourself. Initially, you may feel that other people are taking advantage of you, but after a month of practice, you will see a change in yourself.
- Learn to let go. There are a lot of people out there that have had hard lives/bad beginnings or moments. A lot of people close up on themselves out of grief or fear and have a hard time opening back up. It is important to let go of all the pain that is still inside of you from that bad experience. This is often the hardest part of the journey, but once you've done it, you will really benefit from it.
- Think about what you need to fill that emptiness inside, that place that is longing for love. What specifically are you lacking? Find the answer and then give it to yourself. No one is more capable of loving you, and giving you exactly what you need than you are! When you learn how to fulfill yourself in that way, you stop searching for it outside of yourself and you suddenly begin attracting it to you. You change yourself from a sponge to a magnet! People see you radiating self love and they are drawn to you.
- Keep a journal. Write about your experiences, good and bad. When you write down your good experiences allow yourself to feel those good feelings again. When you remember the bad experiences, allow yourself to feel pride. Pride because you faced a challenge in your life and you are here today to write about it, which must mean you are a survivor and a fighter. Tell yourself, "I know pain, but I have yet to be introduced to surrender." Keep on keeping on. SERIOUSLY ive tried this once and its working! but then i was too busy with classes so got no time to continue writing.
- Get in Tune with Yourself. Music reminds us of who we really are.
- Do 3 things a day, to change yourself into your dream person If it is gaining or losing weight, then take a step by dancing for 20 minutes. If you want to ace your midterms, study harder. If you need to become more organized and stop procrastinating then start cleaning and maintaining a place for every single item. Do what is on your to do list by scheduling yourself. Those are examples of 3 things to do in one day, to further a goal of someone becoming more fit, working towards a great career and gaining the mental clarity from the liberation of clutter! Achieving your goals, can make you love yourself much more because you are building a foundation of your own life and character. That is very attractive and will make you more valuable! Motivation? Happiness, success and hopefully, inner peace. Grab a hobby, finish or start education. The brand new you will arrive. Success is the best revenge!
Hey guys, i wanna give some tips about how you can love yourself :)
- Well this is something that I think is useful, remember that you are only human because sometimes we feel like outcasts or weirdos but that is just something that makes you unique and to be human is to be imperfect
- Here's something to try saying every day. Place it on your mirror. It always helps: "Look in the mirror and what do I see? A handsome boy staring back at me!" "Oh wow!" I thought. Who could that be? [smile and say] "Oh! It's most definitely me!"
- Keep a list of the things you love about yourself or things you've done that if you saw someone else do them, you would love them. For instance, if you scored more in basketball, write it down, then eventually you can build up more pros, to help you know why to love yourself (if you're analytical).
- Just don't become vain,vanity is not loving yourself.
- Do what you enjoy. Go out anywhere, or with anyone. Or stay at home, prepare yourself a nice meal and settle down with a good book in front of a cozy fire. Make yourself happy.
- Every time you feel a negative emotion, pause and feel it, then thank yourself for feeling it. Emotions are nothing more than an experience which contributes to who we are. Accepting negative things as good things in another perspective can yield great results.
- Mirrors will be your friend in this process. Seeing yourself as lovely and worthy of love is extremely important. Pick a favorite characteristic about yourself, and determine what exactly you don't like about yourself. Then proceed to fix these imperfections.
- Never EVER EVER EVER expect to be like someone else 100%. Use your life to build a mysterious and appealing YOU. Not a remake of someone else which turns people away. Write a diary of your exciting and unique life!
- Listen carefully to the messages you are sending for yourself. Turn off negative messages or turn them into a positive messages.
AND REMEMBER THIS!
- Loving oneself is different from self-adoration or narcissism, which are negative and a huge turn off to others as they involve placing oneself above others.
- Loving yourself does not mean grabbing all of the attention and becoming selfish. It is actually a golden confidence that whispers, I know when it is my time to shine and I can become selfless.
- Remember this is just a guide, a guide compiled of hundreds of random people's different opinions. The best way to love yourself is to trust who YOU are, YOU have all the answers for you.
I just hope after i post this, i'll keep on reading it. i want to change myself but its really hard. i wanna leave the old me. i wanna love myself and make people around me love me. who doesnt want to be loved right? haihh okay lah, thats all for today. see you guys again later! byee peeps. XX
p/s : sorry too much grammatical error. im not that good in english but sayang, you can help me kan? teach me english pleaseeeee. hee gedik. KBYE
